Monthly Archives: August 2016

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Coming Out Of The Closet

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Gay and Lesbian Coming Out

gay-coming-outThe realization that you are gay or lesbian can prove a tough thing to acknowledge. The stigma attached to being gay is still rife in our society, despite some level of ‘equal rights’ being addressed.

Families with strong religious beliefs can be especially anti-gay and can turn against their own flesh and blood just for being different from the crowd. If your family has been especially liberal you will most certainly have an easier time of it.

Still, every day, a teenager, young adult or even a mature adult might struggle with the notion of telling their family that they are gay or lesbian. It doesn’t seem fair that so many people feel a shame attached to the person they are, but it happens. Our parents and friends tell us that something is ‘wrong’ and we feel shame about it and being gay is nothing to feel shamed for.

The last thing we want to do is alienate our families and friends but it is so important for us to be true to ourselves. Yes, that phrase gets bandied about all too often sometimes, but we cannot perpetually live our lives for other people.

When it comes time to decide that you must live your life your way and you need to tell your ‘nearest and dearest’ there are some tips that can hopefully make the process easier and perhaps more successful.

#1 – Be sure that you are definitely gay or lesbian before you decide to tell your loved ones. This may seem futile but it may just be that you are bisexual and haven’t made up your mind yet. This will probably be determined by your age and experience.

#2 – Pick a time to talk to your family when there are no distractions and you can all speak freely. Plan a little about what you want to say and try to explain your feelings.

#3 – Be aware that your family may already have a sense that you might not be straight. Sometimes our friends and family will notice things that we hide and say nothing to us for fear of being inaccurate in their assessment or, moreover, wanting to avoid the inevitable.

#4 – When you tell them how you feel, put yourself in their shoes, and explain succinctly that you feel the need to tell them about who you really are. If they are liberal people they probably will not judge you, but, if your family has strong views on the conservative side, be prepared to speak up for yourself.

#5 – Try not to put them on a guilt trip, but do explain that if they truly love you, how you choose to live your life should not be a worry to them. Be sure to let them know your feelings will not change for them and that you want them in your life.

#6 – Stay calm and don’t get irate if the situation looks like it might get hairy. People may well be shocked or surprised that you are telling them this piece of news, so be prepared for all manner of responses. Being mature about it will help resolve any possible disputes.

Support is available at various sources online. Local support groups might be available in your city.

One online source of support is a web page at  http://www.gaycityusa.com/Support.htm where you can find resources and help. There is also a Q&A for those with difficulties in coming out.

 

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Personal Ad Tune Up

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If you have a personal ad out there somewhere on the internet, make sure you check in every so often to update and refresh it. People change on a weekly basis and your data or information could easily become outdated if you neglect it.

Read of your personal ad and ask yourself this one question: “Would I be interested in me if I read this as a stranger?” If the answer is a resounding “no” then it needs some work! If you answer yes, then there is still a chance that you are being a little biased toward your own selling points. Be objective. Take a step back when you read it.

If it has been a while since you actually read your ad be sure to take a good look at the spelling, wording and content. Try viewing it from a less personal viewpoint.  Don’t let your advert become dated, otherwise you might miss out on date!

A very important point is the headline of your personal ad. The sole purpose of the headline is to get the reader’s attention. They typically scan the headlines and photos. Make your headline unique, catchy and very interesting. Here’s an example of a decent headline;
What if you and I were sitting in the Phoenix jail?

Don’t just laugh and dismiss it. Doesn’t it make you curious? It’s catchy if you happen to be in the Phoenix area. It is unique and is likely to make the reader want to see more. Browse through some personals and see what headlines are ho-hum and which get your attention. A good headline will put your ad at the front and center among a sea of boring ads.

Be sure to include recent photos in your personal ad. At least one photo should be a relatively close face shot. You will do well to include several photos including one or more that show you doing something interesting. Do you have a hobby or do you do something interesting? Go ahead, show off your fine self riding your Harley!

A typically interesting body text might look something like this:
Hello and welcome! I am Chrissie and I love outdoor pursuits. My friends call me an outdoor junkie because I am rarely indoors even when it is snowing!! I also love music and even though I have very eclectic taste I do love a good nightclub with sound deep beating music that just goes right through me. I love to socialize with my closest friends and we usually go out most Saturdays to a gay club where we have some good times and fantastic laughs.

Apart from that, I have a romantic nature and I enjoy buying little gifts to show I care. I like to spend time with intelligent and witty people who can make me laugh.

I enjoy my work and I love a good challenge. I am 30 years old and I have an older sister of 32, who is my best friend. We often do outdoor pursuits together but she is more of a wuss when it comes to mountain climbing, ha ha! Oh, and I love horseback riding too.

I also love hiking, swimming and camping (take a look at the photos!) as well as spending romantic nights indoors with a homemade meal and some soft music. I won’t list all my favorite chick flick movies because there are too many, but I do like a good variety of other movies as well.

If you feel like a chat or just emailing me and telling me a little bit more about you, go ahead. You never know; we might be perfect for each other!
That ad is warm and inviting and is likely to attract a high quality response because it reflects a quality person. If you included photos you are very likely to get some replies.
Be sure to tweak your ad now and then. As time passes you’re more likely to be able to take an objective look at your ad headline and body text. Sometimes a seemingly small change will result in a much more favorable response rate.

 

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Beware of Dating Site Scammers

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Tips for Online Dating Safety from the Romance Experts at Alternative Connections!

10 Tips for Online Dating Safety

We offer a fun and secure environment for meeting and relating with others online. It’s also a great place to build loving and trusting friendships that can lead to long lasting real life relationships. Whether you decide to correspond with members online or meet members offline, please use sound judgment and be responsible for your conduct online and off. In both the virtual and real worlds, common sense is your best safety tool.

“Common sense is your best safety tool…”
1.Start Slow. Watch out for someone who seems too good to be true. Begin by first communicating solely via email. Be on the lookout for odd behavior or inconsistencies. “Listen” to your correspondent’s words. The person at the other end may not be who or what he/she says. Trust your instincts. If anything makes you uncomfortable, walk away for your own safety and protection.
2.Guard Your Anonymity. All correspondence with personals members should be done via internal mail or via your own email program using your anonymous username which does not reveal any personal contact information about you. Never include your last name, real email address, personal Web site URL, home address, phone number, place of work, or any other identifying information in your profile or in the initial emails you exchange with other members. Make sure your email signature file is turned off, or does not include identifying information, when corresponding with an advertiser via your own email. Stop communicating with anyone who pressures you for this information or attempts in any way to trick you into revealing it. Take all the time you need to become comfortable with someone before revealing any person contact information. Ask questions and make sure you are satisfied with the answers. Trust your instincts, move cautiously and be selective.
3.Exercise Caution and Common Sense. Careful, well-thought decisions generally lead to better results in dating, and this is certainly true with online dating too. Guard against trusting the untrustworthy. Any suitor must earn your trust gradually, through consistently honorable, forthright behavior. Your job is to take all the time you need to test for a trustworthy person, and pay careful attention along the way. Take a relatively conservative approach to trusting anyone you meet online. If you think someone is lying, it is likely that they are, so act accordingly. Move on to someone you can eventually trust. Conduct yourself and your romances in a responsible manner. Don’t fall in love at the click of a mouse. Don’t become prematurely intimate with someone, even if that intimacy only occurs online.
4.Request a Photo. A photo will give you a good idea of the person’s appearance, which may prove helpful in achieving a gut feeling about your correspondent. In fact, it’s best to view several images of this person in a variety of settings: casual, formal, indoor, outdoors. If he or she continuously comes up with an excuse, it may be because that person has something to hide.
5.Talk Via Telephone. A phone call can reveal much about a person’s communication and social skills. It is worth the cost of the call to protect your security. But do not give out your personal phone number to a stranger. Try a cell phone number instead for added security. Or make arrangements to call from a pay phone. Only when you feel completely comfortable should you furnish your phone number.
6.Meet When YOU Are Ready. The beauty of meeting and relating online is that you can gradually collect information and then make a choice about pursuing the relationship in the real world. You are never obligated to meet anyone, regardless of your level of online intimacy. And even if you do decide to arrange a meeting, you always have the right to change your mind. It’s possible that your decision to keep the relationship at the anonymous level is based on a hunch that you can’t logically explain. Trust yourself. Go with your gut instincts, even when they can’t be logically explained. Never meet someone who argues against your instincts, finds logical flaws with your feelings or pressures you in any way.
7.Watch for Red Flags. Pay attention to any displays of anger, intense frustration or attempts at pressuring or controlling you. Acting in a passive-aggressive manner, making demeaning or disrespectful comments or any physically inappropriate behavior are all red flags. You should also be concerned if your date exhibits any of the following conduct without providing an acceptable explanation: ◦Provides inconsistent information about age, interests, appearance, marital status, profession, employment, etc.
◦Refuses to speak to you on the phone after establishing ongoing, online intimacy.
◦Fails to provide direct answers to direct questions.
◦Appears in person to be significantly different from his or her online persona.
◦Never introduces you to friends, professional associates or family members.
8.Select the Safest Possible Environment. When you make the choice to meet offline, always tell someone where you are going and when you will return. Leave your date’s name and telephone number with that person. Never arrange for your date to pick you up at home. Provide your own transportation, meet in a public place at a time when many people are present, and when the date is over, leave on your own as well. A familiar restaurant or coffee shop, at a time when a lot of other people will be present is often a fine choice. Avoid hikes, bike rides or drives in remote areas for the first few dates. If you decide to move to another location, take your own car. When the timing is appropriate, thank your date for getting together and say goodbye.
9.Take Extra Caution Outside Your Area. If you are flying in from another area, arrange for your own car and a hotel room. Do not disclose the name of your hotel and never allow your date to make the arrangements for you. Rent a car at the airport and drive directly to your hotel. Call your date from the hotel or meet at the location you have already agreed to. If the location seems inappropriate or unsafe, go back to your hotel. Try to contact your date at that location, or leave a message on a home machine. Always make sure a friend or family member knows your plans and has your contact information. And if possible, carry a cell phone at all times.
10.Get Yourself Out of a Jam. Never do anything you feel unsure about. If you are in any way afraid of your date, use your best judgment to diffuse the situation and get out of there. Excuse yourself long enough to call a friend for advice, ask someone else on the scene for help, or slip out the back door and drive away. If you feel you are in danger call the police. It’s always better to be safe than sorry. Never worry or feel embarrassed about your behavior. Your safety is much more important than one person’s opinion of you.

While liars, cheaters and imposters certainly ply their craft on the Web, you’ll also find them in nightclubs, among the membership ranks of off-line dating services, at cocktail parties, and occasionally sitting across from you at your local café. Regardless of where, or how, you meet someone, dating is never a risk-free activity. A little caution will reduce your risk in these matters of the heart.

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Online Dating Safety For Gay and Lesbian Personals

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Tips for Online Dating Safety from the Romance Experts at Alternative Connections!

10 Tips for Online Dating Safety

We offer a fun and secure environment for meeting and relating with others online. It’s also a great place to build loving and trusting friendships that can lead to long lasting real life relationships. Whether you decide to correspond with members online or meet members offline, please use sound judgment and be responsible for your conduct online and off. In both the virtual and real worlds, common sense is your best safety tool.

“Common sense is your best safety tool…”
1.Start Slow. Watch out for someone who seems too good to be true. Begin by first communicating solely via email. Be on the lookout for odd behavior or inconsistencies. “Listen” to your correspondent’s words. The person at the other end may not be who or what he/she says. Trust your instincts. If anything makes you uncomfortable, walk away for your own safety and protection.
2.Guard Your Anonymity. All correspondence with personals members should be done via internal mail or via your own email program using your anonymous username which does not reveal any personal contact information about you. Never include your last name, real email address, personal Web site URL, home address, phone number, place of work, or any other identifying information in your profile or in the initial emails you exchange with other members. Make sure your email signature file is turned off, or does not include identifying information, when corresponding with an advertiser via your own email. Stop communicating with anyone who pressures you for this information or attempts in any way to trick you into revealing it. Take all the time you need to become comfortable with someone before revealing any person contact information. Ask questions and make sure you are satisfied with the answers. Trust your instincts, move cautiously and be selective.
3.Exercise Caution and Common Sense. Careful, well-thought decisions generally lead to better results in dating, and this is certainly true with online dating too. Guard against trusting the untrustworthy. Any suitor must earn your trust gradually, through consistently honorable, forthright behavior. Your job is to take all the time you need to test for a trustworthy person, and pay careful attention along the way. Take a relatively conservative approach to trusting anyone you meet online. If you think someone is lying, it is likely that they are, so act accordingly. Move on to someone you can eventually trust. Conduct yourself and your romances in a responsible manner. Don’t fall in love at the click of a mouse. Don’t become prematurely intimate with someone, even if that intimacy only occurs online.
4.Request a Photo. A photo will give you a good idea of the person’s appearance, which may prove helpful in achieving a gut feeling about your correspondent. In fact, it’s best to view several images of this person in a variety of settings: casual, formal, indoor, outdoors. If he or she continuously comes up with an excuse, it may be because that person has something to hide.
5.Talk Via Telephone. A phone call can reveal much about a person’s communication and social skills. It is worth the cost of the call to protect your security. But do not give out your personal phone number to a stranger. Try a cell phone number instead for added security. Or make arrangements to call from a pay phone. Only when you feel completely comfortable should you furnish your phone number.
6.Meet When YOU Are Ready. The beauty of meeting and relating online is that you can gradually collect information and then make a choice about pursuing the relationship in the real world. You are never obligated to meet anyone, regardless of your level of online intimacy. And even if you do decide to arrange a meeting, you always have the right to change your mind. It’s possible that your decision to keep the relationship at the anonymous level is based on a hunch that you can’t logically explain. Trust yourself. Go with your gut instincts, even when they can’t be logically explained. Never meet someone who argues against your instincts, finds logical flaws with your feelings or pressures you in any way.
7.Watch for Red Flags. Pay attention to any displays of anger, intense frustration or attempts at pressuring or controlling you. Acting in a passive-aggressive manner, making demeaning or disrespectful comments or any physically inappropriate behavior are all red flags. You should also be concerned if your date exhibits any of the following conduct without providing an acceptable explanation: ◦Provides inconsistent information about age, interests, appearance, marital status, profession, employment, etc.
◦Refuses to speak to you on the phone after establishing ongoing, online intimacy.
◦Fails to provide direct answers to direct questions.
◦Appears in person to be significantly different from his or her online persona.
◦Never introduces you to friends, professional associates or family members.
8.Select the Safest Possible Environment. When you make the choice to meet offline, always tell someone where you are going and when you will return. Leave your date’s name and telephone number with that person. Never arrange for your date to pick you up at home. Provide your own transportation, meet in a public place at a time when many people are present, and when the date is over, leave on your own as well. A familiar restaurant or coffee shop, at a time when a lot of other people will be present is often a fine choice. Avoid hikes, bike rides or drives in remote areas for the first few dates. If you decide to move to another location, take your own car. When the timing is appropriate, thank your date for getting together and say goodbye.
9.Take Extra Caution Outside Your Area. If you are flying in from another area, arrange for your own car and a hotel room. Do not disclose the name of your hotel and never allow your date to make the arrangements for you. Rent a car at the airport and drive directly to your hotel. Call your date from the hotel or meet at the location you have already agreed to. If the location seems inappropriate or unsafe, go back to your hotel. Try to contact your date at that location, or leave a message on a home machine. Always make sure a friend or family member knows your plans and has your contact information. And if possible, carry a cell phone at all times.
10.Get Yourself Out of a Jam. Never do anything you feel unsure about. If you are in any way afraid of your date, use your best judgment to diffuse the situation and get out of there. Excuse yourself long enough to call a friend for advice, ask someone else on the scene for help, or slip out the back door and drive away. If you feel you are in danger call the police. It’s always better to be safe than sorry. Never worry or feel embarrassed about your behavior. Your safety is much more important than one person’s opinion of you.

While liars, cheaters and imposters certainly ply their craft on the Web, you’ll also find them in nightclubs, among the membership ranks of off-line dating services, at cocktail parties, and occasionally sitting across from you at your local café. Regardless of where, or how, you meet someone, dating is never a risk-free activity. A little caution will reduce your risk in these matters of the heart.

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Writing Great Gay or Lesbian Personal Ads

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Use these tips to write a personal ad that is effective.  Writing a great ad will set you apart from the rest.

How to Write A Great Gay or Lesbian Personal Ad

If this is your first time visiting an internet personals site – these tips will help you write a successful personal ad.  If you follow these simple rules, you can place an ad that should fill your email with potential mates or dates.
Be Honest
How you write your gay or lesbian personal ad will have a major impact on your response rate. Follow our tips to write a great profile that gets you noticed!That’s what I said, be honest.  You would be better off not lying about things such as your personal statistics.  I mean come on, if you’re only 5’7″, don’t say you are 6 feet tall – what do you tell him if you meet?  That you shrunk?  Plus, being honest from the start means you won’t have to remember what you lied about later.

Give Them A Decent Description
Try not to leave anything unanswered, most people are looking for someone with common interests, and if you and he/she both like eating raw oysters, that might be the key to the match.

•Post A Great Photo
And don’t use the excuse that you don’t own a digital camera.  Everyone knows someone that has one, or you can use a friend’s scanner to copy your favorite Polaroid.  So clean up, put on your best smile, and get that picture!

Don’t Act TOO Perfect
You will scare someone away if you act like the “perfect” partner, besides, you’re aren’t the perfect partner.  If you were, you wouldn’t be placing an ad, you would have them lining up outside your door.  Just have fun with it, let go a little bit.

Don’t Act Too Serious
Again, you don’t want to scare them away.  Let loose a bit, play around a little.  Everyone enjoys someone that knows how to have fun.

Tell Them What You Want
If you’re a femme-boy looking for a bear, or a butch lesbian looking for a femme-girl, then you have to say these things.  Otherwise, you might not get the replies that you want.  Be specific on the area you reside in as well, unless you don’t mind something long distance.
Are You Looking For a Long Term Relationship?
If not, let them know.  That way you won’t have your replies full of people that want to settle down and “raise” that proverbial family.  There are just as many people out there just looking for a good time as there are people looking for something serious.  Of course, if you ARE looking for something serious, say it in your ad so you don’t have to play the flirting game.
There’s Always the Edit Button
Go back and update your ad on a regular basis so people that read it will know that you’re serious.  If you saw an ad that interested you, and then saw that it had not been revised for over two years, would you answer it?

This is the Biggie – HAVE FUN
Life is meant to be enjoyed, and everyone loves to play.  You can find some great people out there that you can have fun with.  You never know, the ad you place just might be the one that your match was waiting for.  So what are you waiting for?   Click Here to Get Started!

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First Date Tips For Your Gay or Lesbian Encounters

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Try our first date tips if you need a few ideas to spice up that special encounter! Here are some  dating ideas from the romance experts at Alternative Connections.

Lesbians out on a first date. Read our tips for that special first romantic encounter.If you’re having trouble deciding where to go or what to do, here are some dating tips that might just help:

Cell Phone Fun
If you have a cell phone, and a crush on someone, drive to their house when you know they’re home, and call them on your cell. (Make sure you have them on the phone before you get there!) Start a casual conversation, then pull up to their driveway, go to the front door and ring the bell. Then say, “Oops! Better answer your door!” When they answer the door say, “Hi! Wanna go do something?”

First Date Help
Here’s a little idea to set the mood on a first date. Before going to the house buy a single red rose, and keep it on the passenger seat. When you pick him/her up, leave the rose there and on your way out, open the door. This is almost guaranteed to get you a hug if not a kiss, right when the date starts, setting the mood.

It Doesn’t Take Much To Be A Romantic!
Try to remind him/her about your first date – did you go to a restaurant?  Send a napkin from that restaurant.  Did you go to the beach?  Send some sand or a shell.  You get the idea, and they will love it.

First gay date. Sweep him off his feet with your special first encounter! Make His/Her Head Spin
Grab them by the shirt, or tie, and give them a nice long passionate kiss.  They won’t forget it.

Special Homepage
Build them a website.  Scan a picture of you and them together and add some romantic words.  Then print it out and present it to him/her.

Surprise Phone Call
Cell phones come in really handy these days.  Try this if you have a cell phone, or you can use a payphone.  While you are out with your date, excuse yourself, and get out of your dates view.  Call their number and leave a very romantic message – something like, “I’m here with you now and you are wonderful.”

Here Are Some Possible Destinations For Your Date: Zoo, restaurant, beach, movies, picnic at the park, mountains, sporting events, bowling, concert, live theater, opera, ballet, Jacuzzi, micro-brewery, carnival or fair, theme park, museum, flower gardens, winery, billiards, horseback riding, or kite flying. If the two of you have a similar interest, find an event or exhibition pertaining to that interest to enjoy together. Another good date might involve doing something neither of you have ever done before.

 

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Pet Names For Your Gay or Lesbian Lover

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Choose the perfect pet name for your lover!
Find a unique pet name for your lover – perhaps something personally meaningful to both of you. This is a list of some pet names that people use for each other.  If you’re having trouble thinking up a cute nickname for your partner, this list can help you out.

Angel
Angel Girl
Babe
Babes
Baby
Baby Angel
Baby Cakes
Baby Doll
Baby Love
Beautiful
Boo-Boo
Bunny
Butterfly
Butterscotch
Chickadee
Cookie
Cuddle Bug
Cupcake
Cutie
Cutie Pie
Darling
Dear
Dearheart
Devil
Dreamlover
Gorgeous
Hon
Honey
Honey Bear
Honey Bunch
Honey Bunny
Honey Buns
Honey Love
Honey Muffin
Kitten
Love
Loveable
Love Angel
Love Bear
Love Heart
Lover
Lover Bunny
Luvs
Merlin
Muffin
My Angel
Petal
Poohbear
Pookie
Precious
Precious Angel
Precious Princess
Prince
Princess
Pumpkin
Sexy
SnuggleBunny
Star
Stinker
Sunshine
Sugar
Sugar Babe
Sugar Bear
Sugar Pie
Sugarplum
Sweet
Sweet Cheeks
Sweet Lover
Sweet Pea
Sweet Stuff
Sweetheart
Sweetie
Sweetie Pie
Sweetness
Sweets
Sweety Cakes
Tadwinks
Teddy
Teddy Bear
Wookie

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Gay and Lesbian Romance Tips

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How to Keep the Romance in Your Gay or Lesbian Relationship  —  Because we can all use little reminders in the romance department!

 Here are some tips on how to keep the romance in your gay or lesbian relationship:

Romance tips to keep your lesbian relationship hot!100 Reasons
Write on paper every single reason that you can think of why you love him or her. Try to come up with at least 100.

2 Truths and a Lie
On your first date, tell your partner three things, make one of them a lie.  Then let them spend the rest of the evening asking questions to figure out which one isn’t true.  It’s really fun and a great way to get to know each other.

A Gesture Every Day
Don’t let a day go by without letting your partner know you’re thinking about them.  A short note written on a post-it is simple and let’s them know how you feel.

A Sweet Dream
Tell them “Sweet dreams.” before you hang up the phone.  It does wonders.

A Time To Hold
The best thing to do is to fall asleep in someone’s arms and to wake up there knowing that you were held all night long by someone you love… It doesn’t have to be anything beyond cuddling.

A Cheap Date
Pack a picnic basket and head to the closest rest stop.  You won’t believe how romantic and memorable this can be.

A Touch Is Worth A Thousand Words
Caress, cuddle and massage your way into your partner’s heart.

Act Like A Kid Again
It is fun to act like a kid again, you and your mate can go for a walk to the park after dark, or go to an indoor amusement park and have a blast.

I Love You Too
Don’t forget the words do have meaning, let your partner know you love him/her.

I’d Like To Have…
Pick one day a week to call your partner and ask him/her what she would like you to bring home, ie: hugs, kisses, or even a massage.

It’s The Little Things..
A little token or two to show how much you care is always appreciated. If he’s sick, bring him hot soup. If he’s upset, bring him flowers… spend some time with him.

Just The Two Of Us
Take your loved one to a place away from the hustle and bustle of town life. Take a blanket and place it under the trees lie and cuddle the entire afternoon and then watch the moon rise from behind a mountain, and remember how special the person you are with is!

Kiss A Day
Kiss your life partner daily before you go to sleep even if your terms not good. If you are unable to kiss today tomorrow you give two.

Notebook of Ideas
If you don’t have the time or energy to try all of these things, then make a note of your favorites, and keep up the notebook by writing some of your own.  Refer back to this notebook when you have the time.

Open Your Heart
Often the greatest way to show your love is by giving someone your trust. Open up and tell your mate something about you that no one else knows. It’s a sure fire way to let them know how special they are and how much they mean to you.

Pampering Your Partner
Every day, one of you can do something to pamper the other one. Facials, pedicures, massages, a hot meal, a bath… it doesn’t matter!!!  It will keep you close and you will find it very relaxing to take care of each other.  Give it a try…it does wonders in the bedroom too!!

Pay Attention
The best way that I have found to show that you love that person is to pay attention to what they tell you. It’s a very easy thing to do but it is often overshadowed by personal thoughts or wants.

Praise Your Mate
Tell him/her that they are the best. Kiss often and comfort each other by holding each other… anywhere.

Pull Each Other Close
Just because it feels good.

Quality Not Quantity
Gay romance is easy when you have a few unique ideas to sweep him off his feet over and over again! Sometimes it’s hard to find quality time together and get to bed at a reasonable hour.  What you can try to do at night is light some candles in the living room, lie down on opposite sides of the couch, and just share about your day.  What a great way to relax and catch up.

Rainy Day
Dance with your honey in the middle of the street in the rain. This is what memories are made of.

Random Gifts
Everyone loves receiving gifts, especially if they’re unexpected, no matter how big or small – anything will do!

Remain Playful
There’s nothing wrong with having a little fun sometimes.  It keeps us young.  When was the last time you and your partner played hide and seek in your backyard?

Remember Snail Mail?
Buy (or make) a sweet and simple card. Write a sentence or two about what he means to you…just because…and MAIL it… everyone loves mail, and everyone loves sweet reminders!

Simple Pleasures
Rub your partner’s feet when he/she is really tired at the end of the day.

Special Surprises
One of the most romantic things you can do is to make your partner a special surprise. Fill the room full of candles. It’s very romantic!

Sure you can think of many more romantic tips to show your love – this should give you some good ideas!
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How To Flirt With Lesbians

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Question: How Does a Woman Flirt With a Woman?
Flirting with Lesbians, Bisexual and Bi-Curious Women

Many lesbian, bisexual and bi-curious women don’t quite know how to flirt with a woman. Read our lesbian flirting tips and get your “A” game on! Knowing when and how to flirt can be a little tricky, especially if you don’t know the sexual orientation of the woman you want to flirt with. Here are some guidelines to help get you started flirting with lesbian, bisexual or bi-curious women.

Consider how you feel when someone flirts with you. You probably enjoy the attention and feel flattered even if you aren’t interested in the person doing the flirting. They will most like feel the same way when you throw subtle flirts their way. Just muster up your confidence and give it a try.

Flirting can be obvious such as walking up and making conversation or more subtle such as shifting your body toward her while flashing a faint smile. Lesbians particularly enjoy flirting of the eyes. Everybody is different, but women who are attracted to women generally seem to flirt in a more subtle way than men.

Flirting is part art and part observation of human behavior. Here is a list of some common ways women flirt with other women;

Starting conversation with her
Complimenting her
Locking of eye contact
Glancing down at her lips while you’re talking
Smiling at her
Smiling with your eyes
Standing or sitting close
Leaning toward her
Biting your lips
Twirling or playing with hair
Touching her on the arm or leg to make a point
Picking lint off her clothes (HINT: even if it isn’t really there)

If you’re going out on the town and you’re ready to get your flirt on, try these tips to get yourself prepared. The first step is to look and feel good before you even walk out the door. Get dressed in something that makes you feel good and confident about yourself.

When you arrive make sure you hold your head up and walk with an air of confidence. Loosen up and smile. Get out and mingle. Talk to people and flirt when you feel an attraction. See if they respond in kind.

When all else fails just walk up and say hi, my name is (insert your name here), what’s yours? If you end up in a conversation that’s great. If not, you were being friendly and that’s always nice, right? This simple approach works more often than you might think.

Remember that most of the women you bump into in a bar or social setting are going to be sitting there waiting for someone to approach them. They probably haven’t read our guide on how to flirt with women. Be bold — go get ‘em!

Need a little more practice online? Check out  Lesbian Flirts Social Network.

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Am I A Lesbian: How Can I Be Sure?

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Question: I think I might be lesbian but how can I be sure?
Am I a lesbian? How can I be sure? Maybe I’m bisexual or bi-curious.Answer: There seems to be this rush to put ourselves and others in boxes and categories.  To some extent this serves a practical purpose but sometimes, when we try to categorize ourselves, it creates internal conflict.  This is largely based on how we think we’re perceived by others.

Ok, so you’re looking for an answer to the question.  Well, you’ll know when you know.  It might take awhile to sort through your feelings and that’s just fine.  Many people live part of their life as heterosexual and then find that their sexual orientation has shifted.  It’s all quite normal.

Many lesbians knew from early childhood that they were attracted to women — sometimes exclusively to women.  Most of them repressed those feelings and felt different, maybe isolated.  They learned not to share their crushes on friends of the same sex.  For many this was oppressive and harmful.  It may have taken them quite some time to come to terms with the fact that they were in fact lesbian.

If you find yourself attracted to women, fantasizing about them, and men are repulsive (in a sexual way) then you are probably a lesbian. If an attractive woman gives you the butterflies in the stomach feeling and leaves you weak in the knees but men do absolutely nothing for you, then my dear, you don’t need me to tell you that you’re a lesbian.

It is a myth that lesbians hate men.  Some probably do but most don’t.  Everybody is a little different, but I dare say that many lesbians find men attractive.  It’s just that they may not find them sexually attractive or they may just not be inclined to be sexually active with men.  I know several lesbians who enjoy looking at naked men.  I know of lesbians who have had an occasional tryst with a man.  It’s not unheard of.

Other women seem inherently bisexual in nature.  They may find women or men equally attractive, or they may find one sex more appealing than the other.  There are no rules here.  For some the realization of their bisexuality came gradually, and at any point in life.  Some realize and explore their bisexual feelings early on while others wait until adulthood or even their senior years to give into their bisexual urges.

Figuring out your sexuality can be confusing and scary.  Only you can determine if you’re lesbian, bisexual or heterosexual and anything you decide is up to you.  It’s also ok to just be bi-curious and explore the possibilities.

If you’re questioning your sexual orientation I suggest that you can safely explore your feelings in forums such as  www.LesbianFlirts.com.  Chat with women who understand.  Ask questions and participate in the forums.  Take your time and enjoy the experience.  When the time is right, you’ll come to terms with your sexual orientation.

 

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